The lure of the older man/younger woman scenario seems to be strong for both sides. Men and women both love being in this type of relationship, so if you’re a man who is interested in attracting a younger woman, it shouldn’t be difficult to find a woman who wants the same thing.
If you think dating a woman 10 years younger than you is going to be difficult, think again. Regardless of the competition you think is out there, there are still ways to successfully attract a woman who is much younger than you.
For many men, finding a younger woman is the ultimate goal, and since many women also want to find older men, this shouldn’t be a problem. But before you risk getting into something you’re not quite prepared for, you have to learn what it means to be involved with someone who is younger than you. It is never the same as being in a relationship with someone who’s around your age, and that’s the first thing you need to accept.
Younger women will have different needs and priorities than you do, so the first rule of thumb when you’re interested in dating them is to take your time with the relationship so you can get to know who she really is. If you’ve already decided that this is the type of relationship you want, do not worry because the following are some tips and suggestions for helping you get it.
1. Remember That Chivalry Isn’t Dead
Most women love chivalry, but younger women often cherish it because it isn’t something all men are still willing to offer them. If you stand up for her when she needs it, open the door for her when you’re out in public, and do little things like lend her your jacket when you notice that she’s cold, she will definitely notice it. Don’t act like her father, but treat her the way you know she deserves to be treated.
2. Watch the Amount of Time You Spend with Her
Unfortunately, one of the downsides of dating a younger woman is that if you spend too much time with her, she’ll start reading more into it than you want her to. If you want to see her once or even twice a week, that is fine, but if you see her more often than that, she’s likely going to consider the relationship a lot more serious than you will.
Of course, if you want it to go quickly that’s one thing, but if you want to take your time, then you’ll have to be careful how often you actually spend time with her.
3. Don’t Come on Too Strong
Lots of young women have stories about an older guy who tried to pick them up, and most of them react to the situation negatively. If you don’t want to be that creepy older guy, it’s best not to come on too strong with her, especially in the very beginning.
Take it slow in the beginning so the woman knows you’re not trying to do whatever it takes just to get her into bed with you. You definitely don’t want to be in any “creepy older guy” stories in the future.
4. Surprise Her with Gifts Every Now and Then
All women love surprises, but if she’s been dating men her age she may not be used to receiving little surprise gifts once in a while. They don’t have to be expensive gifts, either. A few hand-picked flowers or some chocolates works great every time.
In fact, if you spend too much money on these gifts, then she may get the wrong impression because she’ll think you’re being too pushy. But if you surprise her with something simple and which you know she’ll love on an occasional basis, she will definitely remember it fondly.
5. Make Sure You Show Her Your Mature Side
If a woman is looking for an older man, you can bet it’s because she’s tired of the immaturity of younger men. Be strong and mature and act your age so that she feels like she can draw off of your maturity and learn from it. If she’s too immature and isn’t impressed by your maturity, it is likely she isn’t the one for you.
Not to worry, though, just move onto the next younger woman because there is one out there who will value that level of maturity.
6. Take Control and Initiate Things
Be fearless and take control whether you’re on a date or in the bedroom. Many younger women are tired of timid men who aren’t sure of themselves and who don’t show initiative when they’re together. You can’t be overbearing, of course, but if you’re confident and know how to make decisions it will go a long way in making her more attracted to you.
After all, this is likely one of the reasons she’s looking for an older man in the first place.
7. Don’t Try to Impress Her with Your Money
Unless you’re dating a gold-digger and this is alright with you, you don’t want to depend on your money to impress her. Even if you make good money, lavishing her with expensive gifts too soon in the relationship may make her stick around just for those things and not because she cares about you.
Be careful when spending money on your girl, at least until you determine her true feelings toward you and which direction the relationship is going.
8. Don’t Be Overly Serious with Her
Yes, older men tend to be more mature, but that doesn’t mean you have to be serious every minute of every day. Be playful with her just like you would if you were close to her age. Play pranks on her, tease her, and just have fun when you’re around her.
Having fun is a very important part of any relationship, but it is especially crucial when you are a good bit older than the woman you’re dating.
9. Always Be Clean and Neatly Dressed
This one is basic, but it’s amazing how many men in their 40s and older seem to forget about it. Make sure your hygiene is always top-notch and you always have your hair combed and neat, clean clothes on. The last thing you want is for a great woman to break up with you just because you don’t take good care of yourself.
In fact, this is a turnoff regardless of your age, but it is especially important if you’re 10 years older than her or more.
10. Try to Ignore Any Preconceived Notions You Might Have
If you’re really interested in being with a younger woman, you have to ignore those inner feelings you might have about it being wrong to do this. If you’ve ever thought that no younger woman is ever going to be attracted to you or that it’s wrong for you to go out with a woman who is so young, then stop thinking about these things.
These days, it is perfectly acceptable for older men to date younger women, so you have nothing to feel guilty about.
11. Show Her How Caring You Really Are
Many men in their 20s are just plain immature and can’t let a woman get to know them because of this immaturity. When you’re older, you have your emotions more in check and therefore, you should let her know that you are compassionate and caring.
Along the same line, don’t act like you’re ashamed of her when you’re around your friends just because of her age. Pay some attention to her and show her you can be affectionate even when other people are around.
12. Grow in Your Commitment to Her
There are plenty of other fish in the sea, including older men, so a woman can easily find an older man if that’s what she wants. Even if you feel like you’re doing everything wrong at the beginning of the relationship, practice your skills and learn to commit to her even more deeply as long as you’re involved with her.
Good relationships take time, so be flexible and make sure you’re always in tune with what she’s thinking and what she wants from you.
Dating a woman 10 years younger than you or even younger isn’t as difficult as it sounds, but it does require some knowledge regarding what these women want and what they’ll expect from you once you get into the relationship.
Unfortunately, there is no manual that shows you specifically how to attract a younger woman, but there are tips and suggestions you can follow that increase the odds of being successful in this endeavor.
Focusing on yourself is a great start because, like all women, younger women love self-confident men who are determined to treat them right. When you’re in a relationship with someone 10 years younger, both of you will learn from the experience, but when it’s done right the relationship will become one you both cherish.